Although the winner of the American Idol this season wasn’t what I expected, but the Finale last night was like 2 hours long and the performance was just incredible. Seeing the crowds cheered, the singers sang, the instrument players played the instruments, and the dancer danced, it makes me realize that how many times we get to live our life and do what we want to do? With this thought in mind, I told myself that “This is exactly what living in the dream” is all about. Adam Lambert and Kris Allen along with other contestants, regardless of winning or losing, they are living in their dreams now. I cannot speak for them, but at least I know that at that moment, that’s what they want to become.
So, are you living in your dream? Or in your world, it’s only just a fantasy? What do you want to do?
Last night, I learned a good phrase from a movie. I am going to paraphrase it – It takes 20% of your talent and 80% of your heart to be a boxer.
It is so true that when we put our heart into doing something, it is the most effective motivation. You sure can have the talent for something, but if you don’t like doing it, it is not going to go anywhere further. For instance, you have a talent of learning and playing piano, but if you don’t like playing piano, you are not going to become a talented pianist. That’s being said, having the talent is a great thing, but without your heart, it doesn’t fulfill the dream.
Your heart is the place that lets you and everyone know when it does speak up. I call it a central of passions. Your interests, dreams, ambitions, hobbies, favorites, and love, etc. are stored in that location. Therefore, follow what your heart wants and not what your head wants. You could be born with talents, but in order to implement them, you need a passion at heart.
Today, I have learned a new English word that will be ingrained in my mind from now on. The word is mulligan. According to the online definition, “A mulligan, in a game, happens when a player gets a second chance to perform a certain move or action.”
Isn’t it a great word when we apply this to our practical life? Sometimes, we give up on people too quick – our friends, family, and lovers. To me, everyone deserves a second chance, you agree? If you do, then look around your life and people around you – who you were so mad at at that time that you shut them off, don’t talk to anymore, no forgiveness whatsoever. Give them a mulligan!
In the meantime, don’t also forget to give yourself a mulligan.
I just realize that I have not been very dedicated to my blog lately. Sometimes, I was inspired to write, but could not get myself to sit down in front of my laptop and let my words flow in the word document.
To be honest, things do get old sometime. However, have you ever noticed that when you like doing something, the more you do, the tired of it you become? Things appear to be fun at first for a few days, a few months, and even a year or so, but then you either quit doing them or become less committed to doing them.
Writing to me requires inspirations, but sometimes although I have the inspirations, I have mind blocks that I don’t know where to begin the sentence. But no matter what, what we truly like to do is what we like to do. Sooner or later, we will come back and do it again. Sometimes, I got tired of the songs that I listen to again and again, but after a few months, when I start to listen to those songs again, they really sound good like they do in the first place.
Human’s hearts are pure. It’s the environment that contaminates them. However, what we are is what we are. Although you have given up on yourself right now, but sooner or later, you will come back to the real you again with your pure heart and innocent love, just give it some time.
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Sometimes, I feel that writing all of these entries that relate to my personal experiences, and use them as something that can potentially create self-awareness and personal development to myself, and to readers out there. This has made me realize that, by just writing these down is not good enough. By all means, actions speak louder than words, and I feel that it is time to put all of these writing into actions step by step. So are you with me? If there are few posts on here that you like, don’t just read what I type, but put them into actions with me. That way we can really “mean what we write/read, and write/read what we mean.”
Have you ever noticed that, we, well actually not all of us, but some of us afraid to tell the truth about what they like? I used to have a hard time telling friends that I like Backstreet Boys music, and now I just realize that I am uncomfortable to tell them that I am a Disney’s fan. The reason beyond that is very simple, because I do not want to be judged or made fun of. As the matter of teasing, friends tease each other, and that’s a good thing, but what more importantly than that is how comfortable you are with your own hobbies and interests.
People like different things regardless of age, sex, religion, and race. It is the society that defines the norms so that it makes people think that what kind of interests that are cool, interesting, and should be praised verses those interests that are not cool, boring, and should be kept instead of shared. It’s like playing a Bejeweled game. If you play the “classic” one, it is easier and less challenging, and thus, sharing with others, you are not as good as the one that prefers “actions” type because it’s more challenging and harder. And notice that how one confidently says “I like Actions Bejeweled better than Classic.” That’s because the society has defined that if you are adventurous and like to be challenged, then you deserve a praise.
What defines who we are is when we are honest to ourselves, and that includes what we like and dislike, what we believe in and what we don’t believe in, what we honor and we don’t honor. Our life and fame are not defined according to the society, but within ourselves and how much work we put in. Therefore, be proud of your hobbies and interests regardless how the society defines them as. To your surprise, there are millions of people out there that like the same things you like.
Last Saturday, I went to the
One thing that I found funny from this is that, he is a Christian – very Christian. Is this action is what the Christians refer to the wife has to be submissive to the husband? But seriously, there are so many ways to express that in a nice and better way than that, don’t you think?
You know, sometime I don’t know what to believe anymore. Is love really that blind? Or is it just me that is being sensitive? I mean if I am dating someone like that, I would not make it that far to be in a relationship, and not even get married. To me, it’s all about respect and nothing about who is being submissive to whom. Sometimes, I just don’t seem to understand how that works, but I guess they made it to the marriage, and probably have their ways of thinking and how to work things out. All I can say is that, Amen!
I have known that when you are interested in someone, that is a good thing, especially when it is a mutual thing. However, when either one of you or both of you feel uncomfortable or afraid of what other people think, then it is not going to be a long-term relationship. Being in a relationship, or even during the dating stage, it’s not just about you two, but it also involves friends and family. You have to try to go with the flow to see if he or she is the one. That is being said if you are a relationship material and not just someone that just dates someone just to have someone.
If you two do not “really” care about what other people think or say, and enjoy each other’s company while being seen in public, then that’s a great thing. On the other hand, whatever type of relationship that you are in that makes you only feel happy when your door is closed, then it’s not going to go anywhere further than that.
There’s really no right and wrong arguments to this matter, but it’s more like how we approach this matter. Relationship is already a hard work, but you should at least get the first thing done right, and that is being comfortable around him or her and vice versa not just in private, but also in public and among friends. You have to be proud of your date and not ashamed of him/her. Basically, what I am trying to say is that you two behave and treat each other the same way whether it is in private or in public.
So last weekend, I went out dancing. One time on the dance floor, I pulled my Samsung Instinct cell phone from my pocket, turned it on, and then put it back to my pocket by forgetting locking the screen. So it automatically called people on my speed dial list, as well as, the most recent caller that is displayed in the History list, including my own voicemail.
I did not notice that until the next morning. Some told me they answered the call, but heard only dancing music, haha… and some said that they listened to the voice mail, and it simply played the dancing music. What funny was that there was a lady that was supposed to come to my house and bought my MP3 player, she called me that night around 8pm (most recent caller). But my phone automatically called her around 1:38am lol…… and turned out she called me back at about 1:40am. I think she was mad at me that’s why she didn’t come to buy the MP3 player L.
That’s the beauty of the touch screen when you forget to lock the screen, especially that’s what you get when you do dirty dancing *winking* - too much touching, haha…
Have a great weekend!
There are times that when we least expect some particular things to happen, they just happen anyway. Then they start to mess around your life again, and you just realize that you are back to the starting point.
However, how we look at those things is really up to us. That’s being said, whether or not we are positive or negative toward them. If we are positive enough, we will look at them as some sorts of tests that just come back once in a while to test our ability. No matter what those things are, remember that they come and go, and at some point in life, we have to be prepared and when they do happen again, we know how to deal with them. Never ever give up and especially give up on yourself.
One day, I signed in to my MSN messenger. One of my friends put Kris Allen from American Idol’s picture as displayed image. I asked my friend to take it off, haha….. I am not bossy, but let me explain to you something about what I believe.
Idols to me are nothing because I don’t have one, and if I do, it would be real people that I know. I don’t go around and brag about who is hot or good looking. I definitely do not put those stars on my MSN as my displayed photo. I know some of you may say that, but that’s what you don’t like. I agree. We all like different kinds of things, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But the gist of it is that, I would rather look around the people that I know and make my compliments toward them verses to those that I am not going to know at all.
It’s your MSN messenger. You do what you like, but I like to hide your display photo if I see you put on some idols rather than yourself J. It is very simple that I would rather see you in the photo, for I am chatting with you not with those I never seen face people. And you know what, you look much better and more friendly then they do to me.
Last weekend, I went to the club alone again, and as usual, I danced. The next morning, I have been thinking about what happened. I tried to think whether or not I had a good time. This prompted me to think that some people do expect too much out of life and even from the cutest guy or girl that they got the chance to talk to. They gave out the number and expect that he/she would call the next morning or afternoon. But if there are no calls, they tend to become mad at life again, and even worse than that, they lose interests in themselves. I just want to say that it is sad if this happened to you, but is it worth it to be that way?
The future is unknown. What has happened was what more important. You had a good time and that’s what it’s all about. I mean, come on, you got asked by someone for your number. It’s flattering! Leave it at that moment and think positive about yourself. There will be more of these coming in life, but the foundation of life is very simple – you did have a great time!
One of my problems at work is my self-confidence. I often feel that I can’t make up my mind or trust my own judgment.
I think that being cautious is great, but without being able to believe in myself and what I do is just over-killing. I could be underestimating my ability and scared to go with my own instincts.
So, what do you believe in? How is your self-confidence? Would you rather making mistakes and learn from them or would you rather depend on others to make judgment or decision for you? It’s all in our hands and it’s up to us to make up our mind.
For the most part in life, I have learned that being trusted by someone, especially your manager at work, is a great thing to develop your skills. It is because of his/her trust, it makes you feel that you are capable of making a wise decision, and it makes you feel good as an employee to work on the project(s). But no matter what, self-confidence has to start from you first. Who’s with me? J
Introducing PhotoFunia website that I came across a while ago. It is another time for creativity.
Happy Friday and have fun with it on your day-offs ;)
My company last week laid one full time position (my teammate) and one part time intern off due to the financial difficulty in the company. That has worried me still.
I feel that the time is so slow. I want this year to go very quick. Last year, I felt that it went by pretty fast. Then I start to realize that, when we don’t live our lives to the fullest that we want and instead, we are worrying about the future and get ourselves depressed, living a day is like living a year. That’s when no wonder why the time goes so slow.
When we live our lives on a daily basis, and have fun with it, we will forget about what will happen, and instead, we focus on now for the future, and time flies in a glance. Therefore, don’t let the fear get in your way. Keep on living your life. I myself try to live my life day by day and stay busy at work, it’s the only way that can make me forget about the time.
In case you have not noticed, I cut my hair again!
I am not a very creative person, but I like my hair to be short. Every time, I cut my own hair, I have no clue what I am going to mess up. But practice makes perfect! Although I am still not perfect to cut my hair perfectly, I am satisfied enough with the result. First, it saves me money from going to the barber shop, and second, I cut it the way I want myself to look like.
There is no perfect thing in our lives. We can always strive for perfectionism. But an experience has taught me that, the one that always wants to be perfect is the one that usually messes things up at the end.
Just try your best. That’s pretty much all you can do. I always try my best to cut my hair, and trust me, I have no idea what my hair looks like at the back. But I realize that if I strive for a perfect hair cut front and back, I might waste my time trying to fix my hair at the back that I hardly see it myself. Or if I ask someone to do it for me, I don’t feel like bothering.
So, just do your best. That’s all we can do. It does not matter or not if we are perfect or not in other people’s eyes, but what matters the most is that we try our best and it meets our own expectations and according to our own standards.
I realize how peaceful it is to after all the laundry and apartment cleaning, simply sit on my couch, and listen to music while reading random stuff. I relaxed my muscles, threw myself in the soothing music, and enjoyed my reading under the dim light in the living room. Once again, I am getting in touch my inner self.
Yesterday, I went to an event that I could catch up with a few folks that I used to hang out with. There was one comment about Chuck Norris. One of the annoying one asked me if I know who Chuck Norris is, and I shook my head. All the sudden, a few people surprised and questioned me “You don’t know who Chuck Norris is?” The tone seemed to be in a mocking way of my ignorance ;)
But seriously, if that’s the case, why would even bother to ask me if I know Chuck Norris or not? I think that the questions are good, but if a questioner expects to mock at the response person’s answer, why would you bother to ask in the first place? Sometimes, I am just offended by the fact that people ask you questions, and then they are surprised about how much you don’t know. Regardless it’s famous or not, it never means that everyone knows the same thing or has the same interests in the subject. I watch movies, but I don’t care much about the real cast’s names.
There were also times that some Americans ask me this and that about American actors or actresses, or even singers, and I had no clue about because I was not born here and I never have an ultimate interest in
I feel that a good conversation is when you respect who you are making conversation with. It’s being said that respect your partner’s answers, no matter how much you know more or less than he/she. If you ask the question, expect an answer, not prepare to mock at the response. After all, you are not Mr. Know-It-All either.
Another LOL series –
One night I was chatting with a friend from
“Do you know what does Ms. Groove do?”
I did not pay much attention because I was distracted by something else. I thought he was asking me about an actress, I typed back promptly that “I don’t know, maybe she’s a housewife.”
Get it?
Alright, it turned out he was referring to Microsoft Groove. And I thought he meant Ms. Groove, literally. That’s what you get what you change subject from movies to technology. J
I have always wanted a place that is clean, but I am such a lazy bum to keep everything clean in my apartment. J However, I pat myself at the back and give myself credit for trying, hehe…..
I think that environment can have an impact on one’s mood pretty well. When I go into my room and see how messy it is: the bed is not tidy, clothes are everywhere on the carpet, bathroom is filthy, and dishes are piled up in the sink, my mood just changes accordingly. I hate it. I feel that the atmosphere is just not right and all the sudden, I can not do anything right. It is completely different when my room is so nice and I got all the dishes done (Thanks to my lovely dishwasher machine). When my bed is so tidy that I just want to jump on and lay down relaxingly.
I know that some of us prefer messy over than tidiness. Some has a taste of bad hygiene than good hygiene, and let’s not being judgmental here. As always, you do whatever makes you happy and satisfied. The gist of it is that you do whatever makes your mood feels right.
I was driving the other day and listen to the local
I totally agree with the host. I start to hate watching news on the TV because every time I turned on to those news channels, all I saw or heard was about unemployment, job hunting, layoffs, cutoffs, etc. It’s just so depressing and anxiety stimulating. One of the Chinese saying that I like is that “It’s clear when the eyes don’t see.” It means that when you don’t see things that you don’t want to see, you will not feel or even think about those things that can bother your mind.
An online friend use to tell me that he is not worried about something that he cannot control. It has been on my mind since then. Last week, I was debugging an issue at work and I was too busy to even think about the slowness of my company and what’s going on now with the economy. It makes me realize that I should stay away from seeing or hearing economic crisis news type. It is the only way that can ease my mind and lessen my anxiety attack. J Let us focus more on positivity and hope the best for the economy and everyone.
Samsung Instinct is a touch screen phone. It is what they call one of the smart phones in this century because you pretty much can do everything with it. I put grocery items on that phone when I go to grocery shopping, and nowadays I use it as my MP3 player in my car, as well as when I am at the gym working out. I can browse the news when I am on the stationary bike, or even chat on Yahoo and play games. I can also check my personal and work emails, as well as my personal and work calendars.
Compared to my old phone, this new one has made me realize that life is good when there are not so many restrictions. With my old phone, I had to worry a lot if I ever go over my minutes. I used to have only 250 minutes, and my free weeknight time would not start until 9pm. More importantly than that, I only had 300 text messages, no Internet and no picture mails. There were so many constraints and limitations.
Life is good when you live freely without restrictions. My phone is just an example for this entry, but what keeps you from living your life freely? What are the limitations that stop you from moving forward and living your life to the fullest as you can? Just like the phone, in order to live more freely, there is cost associated to it. The question is whether or not it’s worth the price.
Going out alone to the club also takes practice. As days go by, I feel that I am more comfortable doing that than I used to be. Some people prefer to go there and socialize, but for me, I prefer to go there and dance hehe….. Talking of dance, some prefer to dance with at least someone, but for me, it is either way. It does not matter to me much. The fact that now I am not as worried as I used to be regarding going to the bar alone has made me realize how much I am comfortable with myself. Sometimes friendship can mean a lot, but it does not mean that you and your friend’s interests are the same. It makes me realize that I am no longer dependent on needing a company to go out with me. This is part of me that I always want to be – independent.
In fact, I do not mind going out alone or with friend(s). I guess I can go either way now, hehe… which is good. By going out with friend(s) though, I care too much about them. I never cease to lay my eyes on them, in a friendship way of course, hehe… because I don’t like to ditch him/her/them at the club while I am on the dance floor.
I am very much self-conscious myself, but I think that going out alone will be a good tool for me to try to lessen my self-consciousness and sensitivity. I know that going to the bar by yourself seems weird, but there’s really nothing wrong with that. It is all about what you like. Why limiting yourself to stay at home when you cannot find a friend to go out with? Why forcing yourself to watch movie/show, or do something rather than go out and enjoy what you actually want to do that particular night? Everyone’s interest is different, but what is your interest, you should be very much aware of it.
To me, I don’t find people who go out alone to the club boring or weird, but I find them very intriguing, hehe… If I am brave enough, I would go up and make conversation, but I am not. Haha… When we are surrounded by friends at the club, it usually discourages strangers to approach us. I think that to an extent, some people will also be curious about your “singlehood” at the club as well.
Therefore, don’t be afraid going out to the club by yourself. Life is so much fun when you realize that you are independent from other people that you think can make you happy. The ultimate thing about this is your own happiness. If you can make yourself happy, then everyone can make you happy. One of my favorite quotes is “Smile and the world smiles with you. Cry and you cry alone.”
Sometimes, the expectation of the family is too high that I feel very overwhelmed. The thing is that my ambition is completely different than theirs. The reason in the first place that I came to the State was because I desired for independency. I wanted to be able to stand on my own feet, to speak English, to get a part-time job, and to see the America. Part of these wants, they do not include being rich. All I want is a simple life – a life that I can be just myself, a life that I can follow my dreams with family’s support, and a life that does not have many restrictions. But I feel trapped and lost sometime as I proceed on my life’s path. First is immigration issue, second is my family’s expectation, and finally my own fear.
Regardless these issues arise, I still realize that, life is not a straight line. I will survive one way or another. I am not ready yet to give up all the hopes and changes that I can impact on myself, as well as on my family’s expectation in the future. I know that my family expects the best out of me, and I am sure they are proud of me as well, but sometimes, I am just not good enough to satisfy all their expectation. I love my family very much that their thoughts that I cannot help with makes me disappointed on myself.
Life is unfair already, but when we try to compare what we have with others, it just makes life more miserable and unrealistic.
P.S: Photo taken when I left Cambodia for the USA.
The other day, I was watching a show “Millionaire Matchmaking” with Brian. The Matchmaker once said something about how extroverted a handsome guy was, and that kept him from being social. She added that it was such a waste.
Most people tend to be hard on themselves. They forget to see the real parts of them that were created in a unique way. I used to see an article about a model that although he has the look and body, but he is still not happy about himself. Insecurity is part of some people. They have to be assured most of the time to boost up their confidence. It could make one a day when he or she gets hit on at the club or at a socializing setting environment. But this is not a way to happiness because it will be done from the outside in verses from the inside out.
I have learned that it’s all about how you perceive things and what you believe in. There is no need for reassurance about something that you already posses – your good look and your great personality. If you believe that you are cute or ugly, then you are. It’s all about self-confidence. Being too self-conscious will make that sexiness of you fade away.
In short, regardless you are extroverted or introverted, if you are happy within, there will always people who find good quality in you and appreciate your presence. There is no need to try to be a center of attention. It really is a waste if you have all the good qualities but yet keep yourself from everyone that is trying to hunt you down, hehe… Just like the old saying said “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” So go get them, Tiger!
Yesterday was the last day of my crazy spending habit, hehe….. Let’s just say that is my spending Mardi Gras, meaning I will quit spending too much money on unnecessary items.
I set a goal for myself that starting this month, I will be really careful about my finance. But I am very excited about this goal because I am very much curious about my persistence and determination. By all means, it does NOT mean I will become a stingy man at all. I will spend on items that I think it is necessary or it is worth to spend on. The whole point of this goal is about keeping track of my spending. I want to know which part that actually seems tiny stuff but consumes more money.
How about you? Do you think you might have crazy spending habit as well? If you like, we can start this goal together ;). Ciaos!
Back in December, I used to write a post “Just because things didn’t work doesn’t make someone a jerk.” I used to hear a few people said that “Dump them before they dump you first.” Honestly speaking, I really find that irritating. It is a very immature way to handle a relationship regardless it is working or not working.
If a relationship is not working, the involved partners most of the time might already feel that they are not compatible. Then, it depends on who is going to dump who first, but sometimes it goes without saying and the relationship just fades away itself. But who is the “dumper” does not really matter. It might make them sound that they are still in the control even it’s over, but it’s actually nothing but a chicken shit that is afraid to say that “He/She broke up with me.” If you are a genuine dumper, then I would not mind. I have done that myself because I felt that it’s not going to work, and there were always genuine reasons to that, not because I was afraid of being dumped first. I also don’t go around and use those ex-dates as victims of my drama.
I can be a good friend and listener, but from times to times I am really tired of stories that they only tell me about what the other person’s problems are but not their own self-reflections. Relationship involves two people. One hand cannot really make a clap. Just because things didn’t work doesn’t make someone a jerk.
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Today at the gym, my headphone fell off when I was trying to put more weights for the equipment that I worked out with. Every time, when I am trying to fix something, I am always afraid that I will break it or make it worse. One of my American Friend Family used to tell me that “It’s already broken, don’t be afraid.” You know, that is so true. I contemplated on this, and I was thinking to myself that I should try my best to fix the “broken” things and have less fear about it. And Walla, I fixed the headphone.
Are you pretty much like me? Sort of in a way that do not like to do thing aggressively? I saw that some people fixed stuff bluntly, but turned out it got worse. I would say take your time and try to explore the cause or the root of the issue before jumping in trying to fix it. Without patience and thoroughness by fixing stuff blindly, 10% you are going to fix it by luck, but 90% you are going to make it worse. Hey, at least it is a thing not a person, hehe… it does not talk back at you. But for the sake of individualism, don’t try to fix another person though.
You know one thing I have learned in America is that, most Americans like to say “next time.” One time I was at a party, the host was asking a gentleman to sing, but the gentleman said now? And the host said, maybe next time. The gentleman felt released because we all knew that there would be no next time. Just about anything that someone asks you to do something, then either you or him/her said next time, most cases are that, that “next time” hardly comes.
Therefore, act now and stop procrastinating. You are not too busy or too tired, you just think that you have all the time in this world “tomorrow”, but then what’s left to the “now”? And how many next time and tomorrow that have become the next now?
With the slow economy, how can one survive without worrying about “what if?” As human being, we all need support and encouragement from friends. It is that time that it is just so nice to have someone to talk to and to know that someone special out there cares about you. It is like after a stressful day, you hope that you open the door and are greeted with a warm and loving hug from your lover. Human’s touch is a healer to one’s soul.
Just know that you are not alone if you struggle for that feeling and emotional support, and remember to show your love and caring to the one(s) that you like whether it is friendship or relationship. I learn one thing that living in fear is such a depressing way to live a life. No matter how each individual reacts to fear, no one can really imagine how painful and fearful another person is. Being alone now seems to be nothing but a thirst for tenderness and an understanding company, but we will survive.
My prayer is with you all.
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Instead of telling you what I was doing there, I would just share some of my thoughts about my vacation in
There are a lot of things to do in
The overall trip was fun and I highly recommend everyone go there. Pictures talk clearer than words. I have finished uploading my photos to my travel’s website. Check them out at http://nomaddude.shutterfly.com
Aloha!
Lately, I know that I am having a bad spending habit. I did not really realize that until I am trying to sign a new contract with Sprint and upgrade my plan to a new plan that costs double than what I am having now. But the more I spend, the more I am thankful for my abilities to work and ultimately – my job.
I am a type of guy that does NOT do his finance, except for tax return of course. I have not looked at my spending report or created any sorts of saving plans for years. Today, I just came to a realization to see how much exactly I have been spending. To my surprise, I have been spending more than I should have. But what is done is done. I let it go and I am still thankful for being able to afford those things and still live comfortably.
However, it is something that I should start paying attention to now. I don’t like money, in fact, I hate it. But the society does not allow me to hate it and not care about it. I am 23 now, but I need to figure out somehow to be able to save up when I am getting older. As I previously blogged, living a life to the fullest is not just enjoying in the moment, but also having goals – something to look forward to. Therefore, I just created myself a financial goal, which makes me very excited about it because it is a goal that I have not had before, and I am very curious to see what the result will be. More importantly, it will be a challenge to see how dedicated I am towards cutting down expenses. It sounds hard due to the habit, but it is so much fun to see when my persistence guides me to see my goal. Wish me luck ;-)
You know being dedicated to do something is not an easy task. It involves a lot of self-motivating actions and more importantly, determinations. There are plenty of things that we do in life, but turns out we select a few to be our hobbies or at least we enjoy doing some but not all. To be dedicated to do something, you have to like doing it too. Without enjoyment, you will get bored quickly.
I don’t consider myself a very dedicated person to do something, but when I put my mind into doing something, I have to motivate myself a lot. What keeps me survived from my dedication is my passion, my enthusiasm in doing it, and especially my goals. I like people who are goal oriented mind because I am a strong believer that having goals in life is what motivates us to live in a beautiful dream that will eventually become true.
So instead of asking why you are not so dedicated, why don’t you ask yourself, am I self-motivated enough? Am I happy doing thing(s)? And last but not least, do I have goal(s)?
We all have our moments. Don’t deny your thoughts. My music has taken me thousand miles from reality. I have traversed in time and space, simply lost in thoughts, and I like it. My thoughts told me not to give up, and that is the end.
When I was between 19 and 21, I thought that I knew a lot and was mature by then. But looking back at it now, I feel that I was just a simple young dude that was in the process of growing to become someone. Life has too much too learn, and maturity is not just something that you think you are then you are. It comes with age although I do see some young guys act more mature than some older guys.
The point of this entry is that when I was around those ages, I was confused about who I was. I often time wanted to fit in according to the standards that the society set. When I studied too hard, I felt that I was missing out on a lot of fun. When I stayed in this country too long, I felt that I have been numb from missing my family. When I asked people about their weekends and they told me that they went to the club, I felt that I should have had fun too while I was 21. When a few party pooper friends said to me that Pheng, you always stayed in the library and computer lab, I felt embarrassed and became speechless as if I should have gone out with them and partied. When I turned down a temptation, I felt that I was missing out on an experience. All in all, I was afraid of the fact that I was not living my life as a young adult’s life that was supposed to have fun.
It is true that while studying, you can enjoy the fun times as well. My problem is that it is who I am and my own nature to be someone that is thoughtful and cautious. Well, it is not really my problem, but it’s more like that is JUST ME. Looking at the fear that I used to have for missing out the fun out there regardless of my social or sex life, I feel that it was totally my choice, and it has defined who I am now. I am thankful that I would never sit down and wish that time could go back and I could do something different. To me now, life is all about living it to the fullest without regrets and feeling good about myself. I am 23 now, but I still feel that I have not grown mature enough yet to understand everything. People change in time and so do their beliefs and thoughts. I can’t guarantee what I will become, but one thing I know for sure is that I gotta look forward to what I will be and how I am going to shape the present me to prepare for the future me.
If you think that missing out on the fun that you are not interested in and just want to do it to fit in the norms, don’t do it. Peer pressures or whatsoever, don’t buy it. You can do better than that, and that is - be who you truly are.
You ever paid attention when you try to say the word “SMILE?” Notice your mouth and lip as they are trying to pronounce it in a way that makes you want to smile. Usually, when I am not in a great mood, I simply say the word “smile” quietly. Then I start to smile and a smile means a lot to a soul.
A smile makes strangers believe that you are friendly and approachable. A smile can clean the bitterness, upset, and sadness in a glimpse. Who cares if you have a good smile or not. Do it for yourself, for the sake of your own soul. Don’t be shy to smile, or say the word out because it will make you want to smile. It will make you feel better!
Do you have a goal in life? Are you a planner? Where do you want to go two or three months from now, or even in the future? This might seem to go against living a life in the moment, but in fact, it is an “opposite” element that makes living in the moment more enticing.
Someone used to say to me that “It’s good to have something to look forward to.” Now, I have become a strong believer of that sentence. As much as I try to enjoy living in the moment, I also enjoy looking forward to what will bring me in the future, or where will I go to for a vacation, or where will I end up at, or who I am going to meet. I feel that it is this “looking forward to” that brings the hope to the present - something that is definitely a turn on, mystery, and adventure.
Therefore, living in the moment does NOT specifically mean that you don’t care about your future anymore, or you have nothing to look forward to but simply live and live in the moment. So do you have something to look forward to in your life? If not, you better create one. It’s a fun way to live a life, I promise!
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