I Am Sorry

Do you have a habit of saying “Sorry?” Apologizing to people when we do something wrong is very well done, but when we actually do not do anything wrong, or in other words, it is not our fault, then it is very horrible done. Due to our habit, we tend to apologize quickly when things go wrong. Another major factor is that we have a low self-esteem issue.

I used to be like that, sorry this and sorry that, when in fact, it was not my fault and things were even out of my control. I often felt bad when things went wrong and I did not know what to say besides saying sorry and hoping that the other person would understand and forgive me. Apology can be considered an argument settlement, that’s being said if one party is willing to accept he or she is wrong and apologize, and then the other person will feel good and stop the argument. In my case, I feel responsible for things that I lay my hands on.

However, the reality does not work this way. Change the habit of saying sorry, and only say and mean it when things go wrong because of your actions. Misunderstanding is every where, but that does not mean it is you that cause the misunderstanding thing to happen in the first place. Sure you might send out wrong signals or say something that’s not fully understood by the other person, but it’s not like something that you should feel bad and tell yourself that you are stupid and horrible at communication. It can be something that is totally out of your control. Remember, there’s always at least a root of problem. You are obligated to analyze that root, and see if it really is your fault or not. No one is perfect or never does anything wrong, but when often time we apologize, we send out negative thoughts to our mind when it really has nothing to do with us. Low self-esteem folks would beat themselves up terribly. I have been there and done that, but I have also done changing my habit of saying sorry all the time. The point is, it is nice to feel responsible and that shows how dependable person you are, but if you don’t mean it when you say it, then what’s the point of apologizing? More importantly, if saying sorry means it is your entire fault, and you send out those negative thoughts to your mind, finally you make yourself feel terrible, it will be totally useless. Think about this and next time re-evaluate the problems and causes before saying sorry, trust me, you will feel much better.

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