There’s one thing in life called love. A Chinese author used to say that “Without dreams, life is hopeless. Without love, life is meaningless.” It is all those lonely times that remind us of having someone to be with, to love and to be loved, to care for and to be cared for.
The concept of meeting someone special is that love happens when we least expect it. I used to hear people say that if you chase after love, it’s like you are chasing butterflies. The more you chase them, the farther they fly away. Many relationship professionals believe that, when we create our life that is full of energy and fun, we will attract that special one.
I am speaking from my past experience here. When we are desperately looking for love or relationship, we are making ourselves look …. well desperate! And when we are desperate, we start to look for love in all the wrong places and time. As the result, we end up with people that are not really our types. Because we look so hard and we want a partner to love and be loved so badly that we forget our standards, we forgo ourselves, and simply want to be with someone that we know the relationship is not going to last long. We may convince ourselves that love is blind, but in fact, it is the desperateness that blinds us.
Having someone to be with romantically is a great feeling, but this only happens when we are ready to be with that someone. If we think that we are unhappy and expect that someone to fill in the happiness gap in our life, then we become needy. And being needy is no different than desperateness. One of my favorite quotes from Oscar Wilde is “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” Happiness is within the self, and by loving ourselves, we create the life that is full of energy and fun. It is that time that we send out the signal to the special one that we are ready.
Continue live on your life and make the best out of it. The butterflies one day will fly back to you when you live in a colorful life. That way, you don’t have to chase them and scare them away.
The concept of meeting someone special is that love happens when we least expect it. I used to hear people say that if you chase after love, it’s like you are chasing butterflies. The more you chase them, the farther they fly away. Many relationship professionals believe that, when we create our life that is full of energy and fun, we will attract that special one.
I am speaking from my past experience here. When we are desperately looking for love or relationship, we are making ourselves look …. well desperate! And when we are desperate, we start to look for love in all the wrong places and time. As the result, we end up with people that are not really our types. Because we look so hard and we want a partner to love and be loved so badly that we forget our standards, we forgo ourselves, and simply want to be with someone that we know the relationship is not going to last long. We may convince ourselves that love is blind, but in fact, it is the desperateness that blinds us.
Having someone to be with romantically is a great feeling, but this only happens when we are ready to be with that someone. If we think that we are unhappy and expect that someone to fill in the happiness gap in our life, then we become needy. And being needy is no different than desperateness. One of my favorite quotes from Oscar Wilde is “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” Happiness is within the self, and by loving ourselves, we create the life that is full of energy and fun. It is that time that we send out the signal to the special one that we are ready.
Continue live on your life and make the best out of it. The butterflies one day will fly back to you when you live in a colorful life. That way, you don’t have to chase them and scare them away.
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about your post, I think I can actually relate to that as I had an experience relating to that. You are so right. If we tend to push ourselves so hard towards finding the person that we wish to be with, the more difficult it is to find that particular person thus ending us with the wrong ones or be the wrong ones for some folks.
We dont have to "look"..all that we have to do is wait as we are intended for someone who's just right for us. I do biliv that there is no such thing as the "right one" nor the wrong one. Everybody deserves to be loved no matter what he/she is. You may regret loving a particular person but it doesnt mean you really dont belong.
Admit it, whether we have breakups and wud eventually consider that "past/ex" of ours as somebody who's not worthy for us, we still had some wonderful moments with them. Just cherish on those times, never delete as they've become a part of you no matter what you do you just cant erase them all your life. Maybe that person is the person that you deserve or need that time thats why he/she was given to you. And whatever happens after that, they all have reasons. Everything has its own seasons and reasons.
What we need to do is cherish those who love us, had loved us and those we love whether they love us in return or not. It's in giving that we receive....hehehe
ArmCay,
Thanks for the thoughtful comment. It's a great one. I like the quote that says "Don't cry because it's over, but smile because it happened." People who we love or hate, or get mad at, friends or lovers, they are always part of our life.