I was thinking about two options that we, as human being, can choose, the other day. What would you choose to do? Upgrade yourself or downgrade yourself? I am sure no one would like to downgrade him/herself, but just because you “want” to upgrade yourself is not enough, take actions!
Why do I go to gym? Because I want to upgrade my physiques and my health.
Why do I often challenge myself at work by taking any tasks to do? Because I want to upgrade my experiences and knowledge of learning different things at work place.
Why do I create and write this blog? Because my primary purpose of this blog is to upgrade myself emotionally by sharing my experiences with the readers, and at the same time learning from those experiences. More information about this blog Click here.
Why do I like to try new things or go to new places although to some people, it’s just another city or state? Well because I want to upgrade my adventures and things that I like to do or places I like to go to. Doing same old stuff is kind of boring to me.
Why did I get a new apartment or car? Obviously, because I want to upgrade my living style since I now got a full time job compared to before that I was just a student. Plus, I want to upgrade my appreciation and gratitude about my work and life in general.
There are quite a few more things in my life that I never cease to improve or upgrade. I feel that life is like stairs, I walk up to my goal, but in life once in a while, I walk down , and that’s okay sometimes I am just tired or sometimes it’s just not meant to be for me.
If you want to upgrade yourself, starting 2009, just do it! No more “imaginary” wants, but instead take actions! I will see you up there!
I recently ran into an article about the Law of Attraction. The author said that “The Law of Attraction states that we attract situations, people, and experiences in our lives that reflect who we are and what we focus on.” I then did a google on what exactly the Law of Attraction is about as I never heard of it before.
There are four elements in regards to the Law of Attraction according to the Wikipedia. I started to look and think about those four elements, and even tried to list things out for the first item – Know what you want. It was easy to list what I want, really, but then when it comes to the second item, which is Ask the universe for it. I became a little bit doubtful about my list, whether or not it’s too much or too good to be true. Then when it comes to the third item - Feel and behave as if the object of your desire is on its way, I tended to be very self-doubt and started to question if the list of what I want is realistic. Well with these kinds of struggling, it makes me completely suspicious about the last item - Be open to receiving it.
The point is, this situation makes me realize that sometimes we know what things we want, but they tend to be some sorts of illusions or simply just a fantasy. On the other hand, sometimes we list things out that we know for sure those are what we are looking for, yet we are afraid to go after them, become disbelieving and even self-doubt like me. Sure, the experiences make us see clear what would and would not work, but we have to believe in ourselves. I would like to change the third item to be “Feel and believe as if the object of your desire is on its way.” Without believing, it’s just making us become more and more doubtful about our lists though they are realistic and attainable. We are not picky, we are not greedy, we are just human beings that want the best for ourselves and definitely know what we want somehow. The mind can betray us, but nothing goes wrong with what the heart wants if we believe. Sometimes, we also tend to be flexible, and yes we sure can be that way, but never ever let go our standards because those are what define who we really are, and more importantly, we will be happy when we get the “stuff” that meet those standards. Don’t just settle down for anything or anyone, I believe that you can do better than that.
I have been not so friendly at work. Due to stress, I become distracted easily and crankyJ. I guess that’s the part that I need to work on. Yay, another self-improvement project, hehe….
Anyway, I am self-reflecting about my actions today. What happened was, I was not as happy as I used to be in the office. People that know me know that I like to smile.
The winter is here, and the road is slick. I was driving slowly to avoid any danger that can be caused by the slick road. However, I feel bad if there are any cars behind me that those drivers more confident than I do to drive faster on a slick road because I do not want to cause the traffic jam. J But when I was driving and looking around on the other side of the road, in fact, most of the drivers was driving slowly too.
From this instance, it makes me realize that no matter in life we feel down or face any problems, sometimes it helps to think that we are not alone. Sure personally, we never want bad things to happen to us, but you know that this is impossible as human being. When I have computer problems, or even personal problems, I would google on the Internet and most of the time to my surprise, there were many people out there that encountered the same issues that I did.
The world can be too big, but somewhere out there, you will find people that experience the same problems that you do. You should realize that it is not the end of the world because you are not alone.
Truth hurts! Yes, it does. As for friendship, true friends tell the truth to your face, and it hurts, doesn’t it?
I think that in life, things have to be balanced. I tried to tell myself every time to avoid negative people and try to stay away from negative thoughts of friends that can impact on my mood. As a human being, we don’t like to hear something bad about ourselves, especially when other people tell us right to our face. But which one you want to hear it’s really up to you – truth or lie?
However, if we look at this in a different angle of life. There are actually some friends and people that like to tell you the good things about you and they do mean them. Sometimes, when I am not feeling good, I can always rely on a couple friends that never cease to stay by my side listening to me and more importantly than that, they never cease to remind me how good I am in some aspects of life. They hardly mention any negative things to make me feel worse. I am definitely thankful for that. But there are also friends that would have nothing to say but try to drown you more when you are already drown. That’s the reason behind what friendship is really about that you can always rely on each other for compliments and a few constructive criticisms, but never ever a kind of putting each other on a spot or making one another feels worse.
In brief, I think you already have an idea who is your friend and who is just a “side friend” that you can’t rely on when you need some encouragements. So make a wise selection in life and remember a friend in need is a friend in deed.
Sometimes when we get asked that why we are still single or unattached? High self-esteem people would answer that they have not met someone that can be their boyfriends/girlfriends. Low self-esteem people, on the other hand, would answer that either how ugly they are or no one wants to date them.
You see the difference here? Just one thing in our self-esteem, it changes everything about how we look at ourselves. Ultimately, this change will take away our happiness within. If you are not happy and don’t love yourself, there’s no way others see the beauty of you. Remember, we are responsible for our lives, and we live not according to other people’s judgments and standards but those of ours.
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A while ago, I was chatting with a friend online. I asked him to see how his love life was. He said he’s single and liked it. I continued to ask whether or not he got lonely. He said sometimes, but well worth the drama-free.
I can’t say for anyone else, but whatever that friend said has been on my mind for a long time. It’s nice to be in a relationship, but when the drama involves, it does really gives me headache. All the missing, guessing, wondering why no calls, texts, etc. is just horrible. It’s not that I am afraid to be attached, but it has been that I live my life as it goes and I am okay with being single without any more expectations.
Furthermore, tonight a friend signed up a Live Journal’s account, and it made me want to go check my way old journals over there. Reading them makes me realize that how much I have grown and how much I have understood the meaning of loving myself to be able to offer love to others. It has been a long journey for me to finally understand the real me. Through ups and downs, I would not expect anyone to understand this as much as I do. I am sure that you have your own journey and experiences as well.
Why don’t you take a moment and think about your past, what have you done and whether or not you have been making progress in your own journey and life? Remember, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance” - Oscar Wilde.
All the ways
When you say that you love me
You make me see
The meanings of “we”
All the ways
When I say that I love you
My heart is true
My promise to you
I remember all the ways that we were together
Love is so powerful that everything feels right
Tonight I want you to stay by my side
All the ways
You love me and I love you
Everything I do
Reminds me of you
It’s true that you and I were meant forever
No matter where we are the love will find the way
You’re the one that I hold on to night and day
All the ways………..
I was watching a movie tonight, and there’s one quote from the movie that I like. “Just because things didn’t work doesn’t make someone a jerk.” In any relationship, it’s always great at the first time. Later on, the partners enjoy time together, but things start to go bad and end up not seeing each other anymore, then it’s either one of them or sometimes both starts to trash talk about one another.
Just because the relationship ends, or the person turns out to be what we didn’t expect doesn’t mean he is a jerk or she is a bitch. Romance is romance, regardless it is short- or long-term. What makes it special is that you both enjoyed time together and it was good. You cannot really deny the memories that you both shared.
There are many factors in a relationship that causes break-ups and divorces, but just because it’s over doesn’t make your ex a victim of your drama. One of my favorite quotes is “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” If you only focus on the end justifies the means, you will find yourself get caught in resentment and hate. I can tell you now it’s a childish way to do while talking about the relationship. Learn how to forgive and mean it when you call someone an “ex.” It’s over and it belongs to the past, there’s no need to nag and trash talk about him/her. You have your own life and so does he/she.
You said that “Of course it’s easy for you to say because it did not happen to you.” OR “It’s easy for you to say because you are not me.” Most of the time, I feel the same way. I read some inspiring blogs and articles, I wonder the same thing what if the author were in my shoes, and would they still be able to write something like that?
You read an article about an author talking about being single is fun and cool but they themselves already found their partners. Another author said that it doesn’t matter what you look like even though you are over-weight but they themselves are fit and good looking. You also came across my blog and I said bless your job when I am having a better job than you do, etc.
We cannot feel other people’s pain. We cannot understand what others have been through. It always is easier said than done, and I agree with that. But have you ever stepped back and thought about why did they write or say that in the first place? What kind of attitude that prompted them to do that? And what are their goals when trying to reach you as an audience? They want to help. They want to inspire you to feel better about yourself, to help you explore your true vision in life, and they ultimately hope that someday you will have and enjoy things that they have but you don’t. But for the sake of the moment, they would like you to focus on growing yourself as an individual, and to have a positive attitude when in the future you do have those things that you want. Without positive attitude when you have those things, you will still don’t enjoy them and eventually lose them again.
They are just human like us. They go through the same emotional crisis that we go through. Nobody is perfect, remember that.
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