Dating Lessons

How many times in life that we bleed and still do not learn the lessons? In terms of a date, how do you define dating? And what is the point of dating?

One can misunderstand the concept of dating pretty easy. If you are dating someone, and all he or she wants to do is to come to you and cuddle, make out… and these lead to sex if you don’t have self-control, would you call that a date? I don’t think so. The point of dating is to get to know each other better before a committed relationship. How are you supposed to know a person or vice versa by the way he or she kisses and cuddles with you? It is when you are going out to do something together that your date would bode well what he or she likes, and what he or she does not like.

Another point to think about is that, giving in just to keep the date alive will not help. That is because you already go against self. Whatever you are looking for turns out to be whatever you are not looking for. Then, guilty is charged on you. Sometimes, you are even afraid to trust your intuitions, for the fact that you still believe there are still chances and something between two of you. And that’s okay because the least you can do is to re-consider what has been done, and talk to your date about it. He or she can take it or leave it, and definitely so can you. Most of the time, going against self is what hurts the most.

However, you will still survive. Don’t beat yourself up just yet. It is an experience in life, a path that you have to go through. Think of it this way, if it never happened, how would you be able to get to know yourself better? And what you are really after and looking for in a date? You are still in control of the situation even though it is already too late when you decided to give in. You realize that trying to un-fry egg that is already cooked is not going to happen. You can either eat it or throw it away and cook a new one. The decision is still up to you to make. But by positively thinking, you should realize that mistakes are not bad, but if you don’t learn from them, that’s what is bad. Put down those lessons learned, for example:

- Respect yourself by not giving in so quick before you don’t even know the person.
- Evaluate the things that you tolerate towards your date whether or not they are worth it.
- The date can always show you of what you should expect for the next date to be.
- Dating is not staying home.
- Trust your intuitions and go with the flows by not trying to think overhead, but rather enjoy the date and be in control of the dating situation.
- Be yourself and say what you want to say.
- Love yourself as always …………..

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