Some people think that being single sucks, but would they rather be in a relationship that is not healthy, married and feel miserable? Then, how do they think about being single?
I remember when I was in Salt Lake City. The city itself is huge but wherever you go, you will notice that the places are usually family-oriented. That’s being said, if you are single and walk in that kind of crowd, it might make you feel a little or more uncomfortable depending on how you look at singlehood. It is the American society that values independency, but encourages groups and togetherness. It almost makes one feel uncomfortable to go to a restaurant, sit there alone and eat, while the other tables are couple, friends, or boyfriends/girlfriends. It is the society that defines the “norm.” The majority votes for the norm that there’s something wrong with single people. Some people that are not married even try to wear a wedding ring to prevent from getting asked by other people. If a man that is not married in his old age, they start to think that he might be gay. If a woman that is still not married, the gossip and drama start to wander around.
Although the divorce rate in America is still high, people still vote for that kind of norm. However, the reality is not about what those people vote for, but it is about what you think about being single. It is not about what those people think about you for still being single no matter how old you are now, but it is more about whether or not you are happy with yourself. The ultimate reason can be that you just enjoy being alone, or you just do not want to settle down at the moment. Whatever reason is, you have all the rights to be single and happy. I know it is hard to break the stereotypes, and how those ignorant people generalize single people, you just have to live with them. But there is totally nothing wrong with you. Live your life to the fullest that you can, and don’t just jump into any available relationships without knowing it is healthy or not. One of these days, your enthusiasm about life will light up the room, and that’s when other singles start attracting to you.
I remember when I was in Salt Lake City. The city itself is huge but wherever you go, you will notice that the places are usually family-oriented. That’s being said, if you are single and walk in that kind of crowd, it might make you feel a little or more uncomfortable depending on how you look at singlehood. It is the American society that values independency, but encourages groups and togetherness. It almost makes one feel uncomfortable to go to a restaurant, sit there alone and eat, while the other tables are couple, friends, or boyfriends/girlfriends. It is the society that defines the “norm.” The majority votes for the norm that there’s something wrong with single people. Some people that are not married even try to wear a wedding ring to prevent from getting asked by other people. If a man that is not married in his old age, they start to think that he might be gay. If a woman that is still not married, the gossip and drama start to wander around.
Although the divorce rate in America is still high, people still vote for that kind of norm. However, the reality is not about what those people vote for, but it is about what you think about being single. It is not about what those people think about you for still being single no matter how old you are now, but it is more about whether or not you are happy with yourself. The ultimate reason can be that you just enjoy being alone, or you just do not want to settle down at the moment. Whatever reason is, you have all the rights to be single and happy. I know it is hard to break the stereotypes, and how those ignorant people generalize single people, you just have to live with them. But there is totally nothing wrong with you. Live your life to the fullest that you can, and don’t just jump into any available relationships without knowing it is healthy or not. One of these days, your enthusiasm about life will light up the room, and that’s when other singles start attracting to you.
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